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Loneliness at University

By sophiebk 30 Jul 2019

There can be a pressure around going to University that you must immediately love your new home, new friends, new course and all the other challenges the move can bring. You may feel as though there's an expectation you must be happy and so if you don't immediately settle, it may feel like you're the odd one out - but this isn't the case. Moving away to University involves a huge amount of change, and it you're not settling in immediately, that's totally understandable.

To try and help, we've put together some suggestions of things you can do for yourself to help relieve any loneliness you are feeling:

  • Get out and about - whether you just choose a different route home from lectures, or break from your usual day to explore somewhere new, change up your typical routine. A change of scene and talking to people, even just chit chat in passing, will improve your mood and confidence.
  • Make sure you attend all your academic commitments - skipping lectures and seminars won't help. Sometimes you won't feel up to it but it helps you to communicate with your fellow students about your everyday life and you could even start speaking about how you're feeling if you trust them; it would help!
  • Take some time to think about how you're feeling and why. Student Minds have created this great guide to Transitioning into University Life that may help you recognise why you are feeling this way - and remind you that you're definitely not alone!
  • It's important to stay healthy because a greasy takeaway will make you feel physically worse as well as emotionally. Cooking will distract your mind for a while and there will be tasty results! Likewise, joining a gym or  a team provides plenty of opportunity to meet new people.
  • Don't rely on the internet for your interactions. Put the phone down. Social media doesn't help -  You could be sat in your room with nothing to do whilst on Instagram and Facebook people you know are posting pictures of them and their many friends having the time of their life. Stop. Try not to compare yourself to them because that will lead down a negative path, your priority should be improving how you feel. 
  • Talk to someone! The university offers plenty of support for students living in Halls and so does the wider university. If you want to look elsewhere you can click here to find what support is available in your local area.

There is no quick fix for feeling lonely, but we can help prevent it from getting worse by spotting it and accepting it sooner rather than later. Reach out to some of the support channels mentioned in this article for any help you need.